Every girl dreams about having her first kiss. What’s it going to be like? Who’s it going to be with? Where are we going to be? A million questions run through our heads. Let’s start by looking at the differences between boys and girls. The way we think is a lot different than boys.
We tend to have more passionate feelings and emotions. We also will share our feelings to almost anyone who will listen. Girls are more sensitive than boys are. Every detail of our first kiss has already played in our head. Boys on the other hand, are thinking of much different things and are probably just excited that someone is even entertaining the idea of sharing a kiss with them.
Everyone is different so when it comes to a specific age, there is no right and wrong answer. I do feel however, that elementary school is too young. Even early middle school may be too young. Maturity plays a huge role in how we react and feel about situations like this. I will tell you this.
It is not like how you see it in the movies. Could it be? Sure, but only if you take it seriously and don’t go around just kissing anyone or the first guy you see. You don’t want it to be someone who isn’t special to you. It should be a big deal. So you need to really think about who you want your first kiss to be with.
You will want to retell the story to your kids one day. If you are ever caught in a situation where someone is trying to kiss you and you don’t want to kiss them, its ok to say no. Don’t give in just because you feel pressured to. Boys can be sneaky and will try to pull things sometimes.
If something doesn’t feel right, listen to your gut and don’t do it. If you have questions or need someone to talk to, you can try your friends but I would go talk to your mom or guardian. It might be scary to think of sharing such personal things with her, but you can do it! She may surprise you. If I can give any advice, be as open as you can with her or whoever is your guardian.
You will build a good foundation of communication and trust. She will be able to help you with any questions you might have about boys. Remember, she was young at one time too. She had a first kiss at some point and you should ask to hear her story. You also have your friends. Maybe some of them have had their first kiss.
I’m sure you’ve already heard every detail, but ask them again. That’s what friends are for! Don’t worry, you will know when the time is right and if it’s the right person. Don’t forget your tic tacs! No one likes stinky breath!